Bedroom Talk No-Nos

It’s good to share your thoughts with your partner in bed, to give tips and encouragement and to yell out in ecstasy when he’s done something exactly right. While sexual communication is important in bed, it’s also good to know when you’ve gone too far. Here are a few tips about what should be avoided during pillow talk:

1.    Skip the Clinical Lingo. You want him to finger you, so you say, “Please use your digitus secundus manus to stimulate my clitoris and clitoral hood.” Uh-uh. That is a definite no-no. If you don’t feel comfortable using words like pussy and you want to steer clear of clinical words (“vagina” is included in that), then it’s perfectly fine to say, “I like it when you touch me here.” Guide his hand towards your clitoris – he’ll know what you’re talking about.
2.    Don’t judge or insult. If he’s done something wrong, during or just after sex is not the time to mention it. If it’s something that really bothered you, then you should definitely discuss it later, but in bed is not the time to start attacking his ego. Nothing good will come from it.
3.    Exes are off limits. Don’t mention any of yours or any of his. Just steer clear entirely.
4.    Don’t complain about your body. Bigger breasts, smaller butt, clear skin – yes, we all have those complaints, but in the bedroom with your boyfriend is not the place to discuss them. He’s in bed with you because he thinks you’re beautiful, by talking about your imperfections you’ll both ruin the mood and force him to focus on how you’re not 100% perfect.
5.    His erection is his business. Please, by all means, do not discuss his hard on, or lack thereof. In other words, if you like what you see, then say so, but if it somehow doesn’t measure up to your expectations, don’t ask him why he’s not aroused or if he needs Viagra or Cialis. If he’s having an ED moment, the last thing you want to do is draw attention to it, even if you’re speaking out of concern.